As a mom to a child with ADHD, I know that taking care of myself is just as important as taking care of my child. However, finding time for self-care feels like an impossible task with the never-ending list of responsibilities that come with raising a child with ADHD. But we as moms need a few self-care strategies and the right support system so that we can overcome the obstacles and make time for us.
In this blog post, we will explore:
- self-care strategies for moms with ADHD children,
- creating a support system,
- overcoming self-care obstacles,
- and the importance of making self-care a priority.
Self-Care Strategies for Moms with ADHD Children
Time Management Strategies
One of the biggest obstacles to self-care for moms with ADHD children is time management. However, by using time management strategies, it is possible to carve out time for self-care. One strategy is to wake up earlier or go to bed later than your child to have some uninterrupted time for self-care activities. But, it isn’t always viable to do so.
Another strategy is to break up self-care activities into small, manageable chunks throughout the day. For example, taking a 10-minute walk during lunch break, practicing yoga for 15 minutes in the morning, or reading a book for 20 minutes before bed. This is what I try to do. I say try because more often than not I don’t get to do these things.
Taking a shower is a production that is either accomplished by having the husband watch the kids or me doing a 5 min rinse off. Because I have to joy of having a 1-year-old that has discovered climbing. And do it on everything. Including the kitchen table.
Multitasking Self-Care with Daily Routines
Another way to make time for self-care is to incorporate it into your daily routines. For instance, taking a relaxing bath while your child is doing homework or having a dance party with your child to get some exercise. Doing self-care activities with your child not only makes it more fun but also sets a positive example for them to take care of themselves.
Self-Care Activities That Can Be Done with Children
Sometimes, it can be difficult to find time away from your child to do self-care activities. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do self-care activities with your child. For example, having a family game night, doing a craft together, or going for a walk in the park. These activities not only provide self-care for you but also create special bonding time with your child.
Creating a Support System
Relying on Friends and Family
As a mom, it’s okay to ask for help from friends and family. Whether it’s asking for someone to watch your child for an hour while you take a yoga class or having someone bring you a meal when you’re feeling overwhelmed, having a support system is crucial for self-care. Or if he is around, leave the kids with their father.
Joining a Mom Support Group
Joining a mom support group can also provide an invaluable support system. Mom support groups are a great way to connect with other moms who understand the struggles of raising a child with ADHD. They offer a safe space to share experiences, provide advice, and offer emotional support. But they can also be huge drainers on your energy. It is important to not take everything said personally.
Hiring a Babysitter or Nanny
If friends and family are not an option, hiring a babysitter or nanny can also provide a much-needed break for self-care. Even just a few hours a week can make a significant difference in reducing stress and increasing self-care.
Overcoming Self-Care Obstacles
Guilt and Other Emotional Barriers
One of the biggest obstacles to self-care for moms with ADHD children is guilt. It’s common for moms to feel guilty for taking time away from their children or for prioritizing their own needs over their child’s needs. However, it’s important to remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish but necessary for your own well-being and the well-being of your child. (read more here) Remind yourself that self-care is an investment in yourself and your child.
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Financial Barriers
Another obstacle to self-care for moms with ADHD children is financial barriers. Self-care activities can be expensive, such as gym memberships, spa treatments, or hiring a babysitter. However, self-care doesn’t have to be expensive. There are many free or low-cost self-care activities that can be done at home or in nature, such as taking a walk or practicing meditation. Additionally, many community centers offer free or low-cost fitness classes, and there are numerous online resources, such as YouTube videos or apps, that provide guided self-care practices. Something as simple as reading a book, be it fictional or non-fictional, is also free. If you have a library nearby, even better. Then you can get books for yourself as well as for your children.
Lack of Motivation
Lack of motivation is another obstacle that many moms face when it comes to self-care. When you’re exhausted from caring for your child and managing other responsibilities, the last thing you may feel like doing is taking care of yourself. However, it’s important to recognize that self-care is not just about feeling good at the moment but also about improving your long-term well-being. To overcome a lack of motivation, start small and set achievable goals. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and gradually increase the amount of time and effort you devote to self-care.
Importance of Making Self-Care a Priority
Positive Impact on Mental Health
Taking care of yourself has numerous benefits, both for you and your child. Self-care can improve mental health, reduce stress and anxiety, and increase feelings of well-being and happiness. By prioritizing self-care, you’re not only improving your own mental health but also setting a positive example for your child to take care of themselves.
Improved Physical Health
Self-care can also have a positive impact on physical health. Engaging in regular exercise, eating a healthy diet, and getting enough sleep are all important aspects of self-care that can improve physical health and reduce the risk of chronic illnesses.
Better Relationship with Child and Others
Finally, making self-care a priority can also improve your relationship with your child and others. When you take care of yourself, you have more energy and patience to devote to your child and other relationships. Additionally, modeling self-care behaviors can teach your child the importance of taking care of themselves and others.
Conclusion
As a mom to a child with ADHD, I find that taking time for self-care seems like an impossible task. However, with the right self-care strategies and support system, it’s possible to make self-care a priority, even for us moms. Remember that self-care is not selfish but necessary for your own well-being and the well-being of your child. By overcoming self-care obstacles, making self-care a priority, and modeling self-care behaviors, you can improve your mental and physical health, as well as your relationship with your child and others.
If you’re struggling with finding time for self-care, consider reaching out to a friend or joining a mom support group. There are also numerous resources available online to help you prioritize self-care in your daily life. Taking care of yourself is an investment in your well-being and the well-being of your child, and it’s never too late to start.